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		<title>The Art of Decision Making: Tips on Making Decisions You Can Live With</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 May 2012 04:29:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Art of Decision Making: Tips on Making Decisions You Can Live With Making decisions in our lives – whether it’s what to eat for lunch or where to find your next job – can seem overwhelming. Each decision carries with it a result and a chain of events that may dictate the course of [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong><span style="color: #008000;"><a href="http://anitafiander.com/"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-933" title="wisdom womens leadership" src="http://anitafiander.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Fotolia_2579765_Subscription_L-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" /></a>The Art of Decision Making: Tips on Making Decisions You Can Live With</span></strong></p>
<p>Making decisions in our lives – whether it’s what to eat for lunch or where to find your next job – can seem overwhelming. Each decision carries with it a result and a chain of events that may dictate the course of our lives.</p>
<p>For those of us who consider every decision as life or death, day-to-day decisions can seem impossible!</p>
<p>To help you discover the finer points of decision-making, here are some valuable tips on how you can make decisions that you can live with every day:</p>
<p>1. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Map out your decision</span></strong>. Start by evaluating the decision to be made. What are the details? By mapping out exactly what your decision will entail as far as consequences and results, you’ll be on your way to making an informed decision that you can live with.</p>
<p>2. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Weigh pros and cons.</strong></span> This process is tried and true. Make a list and evaluate the pros in one column against the cons in another. Include short and long term consequences as well as positives and negatives.</p>
<p>Seeing the pros and cons before you on paper will make the matter at hand seem all the more evident as far as how you should make your decision. In your evaluation, give more weight to the pros and cons that carry more weight in your life.</p>
<p>• The quantity of pros or cons does not equal the quality.</p>
<p>For example, if one of your main priorities in life is to make more money, listing “make more money” on your pros column should count for more than one of the cons in the other column.</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Become informed</strong></span>. Find out all of the related information you need to make your decision. Being better informed through research or talking to others will help you make a decision you can live with.</p>
<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Consider your motives</strong></span>. While evaluating your list of pros and cons, consider what motives may be contributing to the points you added in both columns. Revise or weigh accordingly. For example, can the con on your list be attributed to your lifelong fear or is it merely situational?</p>
<p>• In the case of fears, perhaps facing your fears should be part of the decision. Facing the fear may be a pro as opposed to the fear being a con.</p>
<p>5. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Give yourself a deadline</strong></span>. When faced with an important decision, we tend to delay making the ultimate choice. By giving yourself a deadline, you will have no other choice than to decide one way or another.</p>
<p>6. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Look at the decision as part of the bigger picture</strong></span>. Is this a small or large decision in the course of your life? Decide which and evaluate accordingly. If it’s small, perhaps you’re spending too much time and consideration on it. If it’s larger, how will it fit in with the rest of your life goals?</p>
<p>• By examining the decision for what it is in the short and long-term, you will better understand how the decision affects the bigger picture.</p>
<p>7. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Recognize the relativity</strong></span>. Many tough decisions can carry with them irrevocable consequences, but more often than not, there is always more time and more opportunity to make the decision again. Worrying needlessly about one decision is futile.</p>
<p>• Most decisions only determine your short-term circumstances in the relative present. In most cases your decision can be altered in the future when circumstances are different or you’re in a different stage of your life.</p>
<p>Following these tips can transform decision-making from a stressful process into a process that gives you more confidence and control in your life.</p>
<p>Embrace decisions as the good thing that it is, and the result will be a happier, more confident you!</p>
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		<title>How to Free Yourself from Guilt</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 May 2012 07:27:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Anita</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How to Free Yourself from Guilt Whether or not you think you actually &#8220;deserve&#8221; the guilt you harbor inside you, it&#8217;s never a healthy emotion to hold onto in your life. Guilt usually surfaces when you refuse to accept the fact that every member of the human family makes mistakes and we all have to [...]]]></description>
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<p>Whether or not you think you actually &#8220;deserve&#8221; the guilt you harbor inside you, it&#8217;s never a healthy emotion to hold onto in your life. Guilt usually surfaces when you refuse to accept the fact that every member of the human family makes mistakes and we all have to deal with certain failures.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>Guilt Is Not Always Bad</em></span></p>
<p>Guilt can be a great motivator for you to correct something in your life that needs correcting, and once you&#8217;ve found a resolution, you&#8217;ll begin to feel more at peace.</p>
<p>However, in some cases there will be unresolved guilt lurking. This is when the emotion can be consuming and you&#8217;ll need to seek out ways to find inner peace.</p>
<p>Once you learn how to properly release these harmful emotions, you&#8217;ll feel like a tremendous weight has been lifted from your shoulders.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Why Do You Feel Guilty?</span></em></p>
<p>When you want to free yourself from guilt, you first need to identify the reason why you feel the way you do.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>Let&#8217;s take a look at some of the most common causes of guilt:</em></span></p>
<p>• You&#8217;re not accepted by others or think the thoughts you&#8217;re having are wrong.</p>
<p>• You feel responsible for something bad that has happened to you or someone else.</p>
<p>• You feel obligated to do something for someone for the wrong reasons.</p>
<p>• You never did something or said something important to someone and now you&#8217;ll never get the chance.</p>
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<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>Resolving Your Guilt</em></span></p>
<p>Once you&#8217;ve identified the reasons why you feel guilty, it&#8217;s time to come to terms with the situation. If you continue spinning in a cycle of guilt, it won&#8217;t be helping anyone, especially not you.</p>
<p>Here are some tips that can help you resolve your guilt:</p>
<p>1. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Leave the past in the past</span></strong>. If you&#8217;ve done something wrong, you must come to the realization that you can&#8217;t change the past. Do what you can to make amends, learn from the situation, and then move on. That&#8217;s all you can do!</p>
<p>2. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Fix the problem</strong></span>. If you can fix the problem that&#8217;s making you feel guilty, by all means, fix it as soon as possible. Beyond this, feeling guilty does not serve any purpose. Do what you can to overcome the situation and then release your guilty conscience.</p>
<p>3. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Try not to be so hard on yourself.</span></strong> This may be easier said than done but you need to adjust your expectations to make them more realistic. If you&#8217;ve really given the situation your best shot and there&#8217;s nothing else you can do, give yourself a break!</p>
<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Talk to others about the problem</strong></span>. Perhaps a trusted friend has been through a similar situation. If so, ask them about how they handled the situation and how you can make things better.</p>
<p>5. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Forgive yourself</strong></span>. It&#8217;s in our human nature to make mistakes. After all, no one is perfect. Make a conscious effort to forgive yourself and your guilt will be released.</p>
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<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Decide For Yourself</span></em></p>
<p>There are many people who may try to bring you down and make you feel unnecessarily guilty. Some of these people may even be close to you. Make the conscious decision to disallow this kind of behavior. Strive for the confidence and awareness to prevent others from forcing guilty feelings onto you. This is a choice you can make!</p>
<p>Feeling guilty all the time is unhealthy, both physically and mentally. Use these strategies to help you enjoy your life free from guilt!</p>
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		<title>Developing a Healthy Body Image</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 16 May 2012 04:35:25 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>Developing a healthy body image is one of the most important things you can do to maintain a healthy mindset. It all starts from how you think of yourself, and when it comes down to it, you must accept yourself for the person that you are.</p>
<p>It can surely be tough though. You&#8217;re constantly being thrown images of people who are almost impossibly thin and this leads you to set unattainable goals for yourself. Since you can&#8217;t reach these impossible goals, you can get easily discouraged. But there is good news!</p>
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<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>Changing Your Self Image</em></span></p>
<p>The good news is that, with the proper drive, you can change the way you think about yourself. Accept your current situation and set goals for yourself that you can actually attain. This sets you up for success and a healthy, enthusiastic attitude as well.</p>
<p>Consider these steps on your path to change:</p>
<p>1. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Accept yourself</span></strong>. Accept yourself for who you are and know that it is good. If you look in the mirror and hear the voice inside your head saying negative things about you, change the subject to something positive. You&#8217;re a beautiful being and you should love yourself.</p>
<p>2. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Avoid comparing yourself to others.</strong></span> It&#8217;s so easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to your friends and the models in the magazines. Everyone is different! We all have our own strengths and weaknesses, so make the most of what you&#8217;ve got!</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Accept others</strong></span>. Learning to accept others helps you more easily accept yourself. Pass out sincere compliments to others. If you&#8217;re too harsh on others you tend to be too harsh on yourself as well.</p>
<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Make an attainable goal</strong></span>. If you do fall into an overweight or obese category, make an attainable weight loss goal for yourself. Focus on areas that you can improve, like portion size or exercise routines. Just don&#8217;t judge yourself or expect yourself to lose weight too fast.</p>
<p>• Some people will just never be tiny no matter how much weight they lose; this goes back to that most important concept of accepting yourself.</p>
<p>5. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Ask for help</span></strong>. If you&#8217;re struggling with body image issues and the other tips don&#8217;t seem to be helping, it&#8217;s a good idea to seek out a support system. Confide your true feelings to family and friends and let them help you reach your goals. You can even speak with counselors. You shouldn&#8217;t feel embarrassed because they&#8217;re trained to deal with these very issues.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Adopting a Positive Mindset</span></em></p>
<p>One thing you can do to help develop a positive body image is master the art of reading and writing affirmations each day and in your times of need. Affirmations are short positive statements that you can repeat when necessary or write out for yourself to post in areas where you&#8217;ll see them several times every day.</p>
<p>Focus on your positive attributes. If you have beautiful eyes, post yourself a reminder about your beautiful eyes near the bathroom mirror. You might be struggling with weight loss goals, but you still have your beautiful eyes. When you hold onto a positive feeling, it gives you a drive and a glimmer of hope. This positive attitude will make it easier for you to reach your goals!</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 May 2012 15:58:52 +0000</pubDate>
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<p><a href="http://anitafiander.com/"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-920" title="women, empowerment, leadership, success" src="http://anitafiander.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/Fotolia_17670753_Subscription_L-300x300.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="300" /></a>Failure is simply a stepping-stone on your way to success. Of course, this doesn&#8217;t mean that it&#8217;s easy to deal with or something that should be taken lightly, but how you deal with failure will determine not only your future success, but also how easy it will be to achieve.</p>
<p>Everyone has different coping mechanisms and ways they react to failure. However, learning the ways that more often lead you to success can help you enormously!</p>
<p><em>Here are some tips on how to pick yourself up after you fail:</em></p>
<p>1. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Learn from your failure</span></strong>. There is a lesson to be learned each time you fail. Discover what this lesson is and keep it in mind during future attempts at success. If you don&#8217;t learn from your failure, you&#8217;ll keep repeating the same mistakes.</p>
<p>2. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Forge ahead</span></strong>. It&#8217;s completely normal to feel like giving up when you&#8217;re first hit by failure. The most important part of failure is what you do afterwards. So strive to have confidence in yourself. This experience may very well be your last step before you reach great success!</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Surround yourself with good people</strong></span>. It&#8217;s a good idea to be surrounded by like-minded and positive people. This is especially important when you&#8217;re dealing with the negative emotions that may accompany failure.</p>
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<li>  Positive people will inspire you to pick yourself up and go further than you thought you could go.</li>
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<p>4. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Set goals</span></strong>. If you&#8217;ve failed at a large task, think about setting smaller, immediate goals. If you build your way up to completing a difficult task using small steps, each step may not feel so overwhelming. When you&#8217;re finished, you&#8217;ll be amazed at what you achieved!</p>
<p>5. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Visualize your dreams</span></strong>. Fight the negative thoughts that creep up after failure by visualizing yourself meeting your goal. Take the time to picture yourself successfully going through each step it will take to reach your goal.</p>
<p>6. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Be enthusiastic</span></strong>. When you first set out to achieve something big, chances are you approached the task at hand with a great deal of enthusiasm. If you meet failure once or even several times, it&#8217;s important to maintain the enthusiastic force to give you the energy and drive to continue toward your goal.</p>
<p>7. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Write it down</span></strong>. Keep a journal that details your personal thoughts, goals, and attempts. It will help you stay organized and focused on success. Another good exercise is to write your goal on a piece of paper and place it somewhere where you can see it several times each day to remind yourself to take action toward this desire.</p>
<p>8. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Don&#8217;t dwell in the past</span></strong>. The past doesn&#8217;t have to be your present or future. Just because you had a setback, it doesn&#8217;t mean that it will continue to be the case. The only way to achieve your goals is to keep trying.</p>
<p>9. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Think about the worst case scenario</strong></span>. What&#8217;s the worst thing that can happen if you fail? Some people are so concerned with success and have such a horrible fear of failure that they don&#8217;t consider whether or not the worst case scenario is all that bad!</p>
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<li> Realizing that failure may only mean a small delay toward your eventual success can alleviate some of your fears and give you the confidence to succeed.</li>
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<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Just Keep Trying</span></em></p>
<p>It&#8217;s likely that you can think of someone you know who set his or her mind on a goal and would stop at nothing to achieve it. It&#8217;s not just some kind of story or fantasy &#8211; this could be you, too! Adopt this drive and apply it to your situation.</p>
<p>When you believe in yourself and your abilities, you&#8217;ll gain the drive to keep moving forward and you&#8217;ll feel unstoppable.</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 11 May 2012 10:39:41 +0000</pubDate>
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<h3><strong><span style="color: #008000;">How to Overcome Stagnation</span></strong></h3>
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<p><em><strong>Do you feel like you&#8217;re stuck in a rut? Are you struggling in your love life, career, friendships, or passion?</strong></em></p>
<p>It&#8217;s time to take action to fix the problem. You&#8217;ll first want to identify the areas of your life that feel &#8220;off.&#8221;</p>
<p>Take some time to reflect on what&#8217;s bothering you and why. Once you know what&#8217;s going on, it&#8217;s easier to find a solution.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Having a Goal</span></em></p>
<p>It&#8217;s important to have goals in all aspects of your life because it focuses your energy onto the big picture. When you have a purpose for your actions, you&#8217;ll begin to see those little steps being important building blocks for your end goal. Your life won&#8217;t seem so stale when you have your end goal in mind at all times.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Here are some tips for setting goals:</span></em></p>
<p>• Make your goals attainable. If you have lofty goals, break them up into smaller pieces.</p>
<p>• Write your goals down on paper and keep them handy.</p>
<p>• Always state your goals in a positive fashion (i.e. &#8220;I will be free of smoke&#8230;&#8221; instead of: &#8220;I will stop smoking&#8230;&#8221;)</p>
<p>• Be as detailed as you can when planning out your goals step by step.</p>
<p>• Fight the urge to procrastinate.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Take Action</span></em></p>
<p>Once you&#8217;ve discovered the areas of your life that need changing, and you have goals in mind, it&#8217;s time to take action. When things have hit a point of stagnation there is no other choice you have but to take swift action.</p>
<p>Remember that you can think, plan, or worry all day long but it&#8217;ll do nothing positive for your life if you don&#8217;t act.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Here are some strategies to keep in mind as you put your goals into action:</span></em></p>
<p>1. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Don&#8217;t Hold Yourself Back</strong></span>. If you already know what&#8217;s holding you back, it&#8217;s time to fix the problem so you can take action. Is fear holding you back? If so, it&#8217;d be in your best interest to master your fears. A life full of stagnation because of fear will do more harm than good.</p>
<p>2. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Be Consistent</span></strong>. Many people will crack down on changing their life and then drift back into a world of stagnation. Once you&#8217;ve started to take action, make sure it&#8217;s consistent action. This is the only way you&#8217;ll reach your life goals.</p>
<p>3. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Right Now</span></strong>. You already have your plan in place and it&#8217;s broken up into small pieces. Ask yourself what you can accomplish right now to put yourself a positive step closer toward your goal. It doesn&#8217;t matter if you only have 15 minutes, there is sure to be something you can accomplish in that time period.</p>
<p>4. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Take Time to Unwind</span></strong>. It&#8217;s easy to get excited and eager about your new goals and dreams, but ensure you schedule some &#8220;me time&#8221; as well. You need to be able to get a good night&#8217;s sleep and rejuvenate your body and mind. Otherwise, you risk physical and mental exhaustion, which will only bring you back to stagnation!</p>
<p>5. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Take Notes</strong></span>. Be sure to take notes of your observations and tweak your actions along the way. Doing so will help you figure out what&#8217;s working for you and what&#8217;s not.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>Picture Yourself</em></span></p>
<p>At the end of the day you should picture yourself having broken the chain of stagnation. Even if you&#8217;re not quite there yet, it&#8217;s important to remember that it&#8217;s possible and likely when you&#8217;re willing to change!</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 11 May 2012 09:30:24 +0000</pubDate>
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<p>Finding inspiration comes naturally to some people. For others, it takes practice. If you don&#8217;t feel very inspired right now, the good news is that you can change the way you look at things and, in doing so, you&#8217;ll welcome more inspiration into your life.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Where to Look</span></em></p>
<p>Inspiration can be found everywhere, but different experiences generate enthusiasm in different people. If what you&#8217;re seeing doesn&#8217;t move you, try changing your location. If you&#8217;re in the city, head for nature. If you&#8217;re out in a rural setting, check out the bustle of the big city.</p>
<p>Sometimes a change in perspective and scenery can make all the difference. If you&#8217;ve tried that and it hasn&#8217;t helped, perhaps try focusing on the specifics. Maybe you&#8217;re inspired by the shimmer of dew on a petal, the reflection of the setting sun on the multi-paned windows of a skyscraper, or the tapestry of voices in a busy coffee shop.</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">What Do You See?</span></em></p>
<p>Of course, where you&#8217;re looking might not be the only reason you&#8217;re not feeling inspired. Your mindset can also have a big impact on whether you feel inspired. Open your mind so you can really see what&#8217;s there. Avoid looking just at the surface, but focus on what&#8217;s beneath it. You might be surprised at what you find.</p>
<p>For example, when your young daughter says, &#8220;Play this game with me,&#8221; do you see a bored child or do you feel the love and joy that she brings to every chance to spend some quality time with you? When the sun rises in the morning, do you think, &#8220;It&#8217;s too early to get up&#8221; or do you feel gratitude for the opportunities this new day can bring to you?</p>
<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">How to Seek Things That Inspire You</span></em></p>
<p>With a positive mental attitude, things will look far different than they do when you&#8217;re unhappy or angry. Of course, everyone feels bad sometimes. If you find that you&#8217;re always feeling sad and uninspired, though, it might be time to change your focus toward something that brings you joy.</p>
<p><em><strong>Taking time to stop and smell the roses &#8211; just enjoying the moment &#8211; might be all you need to find your inspiration!</strong></em></p>
<p>While others can bring you happiness at times, true joy must come from within. Inspiration is often the same. It comes from inside of you, and is only sparked by outside sources that you see and hear. If you aren&#8217;t sure how to look for inspiration, consider:</p>
<p>• Talking with a loved one about the things that inspire that person.</p>
<p>• Going somewhere that you haven&#8217;t been before to get a different perspective.</p>
<p>• Looking at something you see every day in a different way or from a different angle.</p>
<p>• Closing your eyes and seeking inspiration in the sounds and smells around you.</p>
<p>Sometimes you need to get creative with the way you hunt for inspiration. It&#8217;s literally everywhere, but it can be easy to miss in the bustle of our lives. To move away from your ordinary perspectives, a little bit of a shakeup could be necessary. Often just a small action or a change in perspective can help you experience the world in a whole new way.</p>
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<p><strong><em><span style="color: #008000;">Rediscover Your Motivation When You&#8217;ve Lost Your Way</span></em></strong></p>
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<p><em>Do you ever feel lost when trying to achieve your goals, especially when progress seems so far away?</em></p>
<p>If you&#8217;ve lost your way in trying to achieve a goal, you may find it difficult to rebuild your motivation. But there&#8217;s nothing stopping you from picking yourself up again!</p>
<p>If you feel like you&#8217;re off track, now is the perfect time for you to gather your thoughts and move forward again. This is a perfectly achievable feat, but you must be willing to give it your all.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #008000;">Try this strategy to rediscover your motivation:</span></strong></p>
<p>1. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Figure out where you want to be</span></em>. What do you want in your life? What matters most to you right now and where do you want to go from here? Take the time to visualize your dream life. Try to envision as many details as you can so you can get a feel for what you truly desire.</p>
<p>2. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Commit these ideas to paper</span></em>. Write the details out clearly. Focus on what you do want rather than what you don&#8217;t have or don&#8217;t want. Put all of this information down on paper in a format that works for you, such as a mind map or a brainstorm cloud. You need to be able to process this information after you jot it down on paper.</p>
<p>3.<em><span style="color: #008000;"> Review your current goals</span></em>. How do your current goals and aspirations relate to your dream life? Are you setting specific goals for what you really want to achieve in life? If not, then revise your goals so they&#8217;re in line with what you actually want. Your goals are only effective if they&#8217;re driving you toward the future you desire.</p>
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<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Create visual representations of your goals</em></span>. It&#8217;s important to keep your goals in mind. Leave reminders for yourself on note cards, sticky notes, poster boards, dry erase boards, and anywhere else that you&#8217;ll see them and be able to think about them.</p>
<p>• Keeping your goals in mind is essential to developing the motivation to see them through to their fruition.</p>
<p>5. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Enlist help and support</span></em>. Surround yourself with loved ones that support you and your goals. They&#8217;ll be some of the best help for relocating your motivation. Encircle yourself with people that motivate you, cheer you on, and feed you positive energy at every turn.</p>
<p>6. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Remind yourself consistently</span></em>. Why do you want these specific goals? Close your eyes and visualize your dream life often, in detail, and review your action plan to remind yourself how you&#8217;re going to get there.</p>
<p>• When the &#8220;why&#8221; of your goals is important to you, the &#8220;how&#8221; more easily appears. Knowing exactly what you want and how you&#8217;re going to get there brings consistent motivation. With a detailed action plan of achievable steps, you&#8217;re excited about your next step and tackle challenges with gusto to get past them and move on!</p>
<p>When you take decisive action to achieve your goals, you can find the strength and motivation to carry on. Avoid letting obstacles in your path prevent you from attaining the dream life that you deserve because, with hard work, the ability to bring your dreams to life is just around the corner.</p>
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<p>You may already know that motivation is one of the keys that determine success or failure. However, just knowing doesn&#8217;t make it any easier to gain motivation. If you feel that you&#8217;re having trouble properly motivating yourself, it&#8217;s time for you to act. Not tomorrow, but today.</p>
<p>Finding your motivation is something personal. The best way to find motivation is to explore your options and discover something that works for you.</p>
<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em><strong>Consider the following ways to motivate yourself today:</strong></em></span></p>
<p>1. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Avoid just going through the motions</span></strong>. One reason you may find it difficult to perform everyday tasks is that you get bored. Of course you&#8217;re going to try to avoid something that you find tedious! You can combat this mentality by adding some depth to your thinking while you&#8217;re engaging in tasks you dislike.</p>
<p>• Brainstorm ways that you can complete the task in a more efficient manner. Then you can compete with yourself to see how quickly you can complete the task in the future. The quicker you get it done, the sooner you can move on to bigger and better things!</p>
<p>2. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Get spiritual</span></strong>. Don&#8217;t be afraid to get in touch with your spiritual side. Many people find it highly motivating! When you discover some answers to life&#8217;s tough questions, it brings you clarity, and you may be more likely to work harder to achieve your desires.</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Set a goal</strong></span>. You might lack motivation because you don&#8217;t have a goal. If you aren&#8217;t even sure what you&#8217;re working towards, you&#8217;ll have difficulty finding motivation.</p>
<p>• If you have a large goal, break up the goal into a series of small, achievable tasks and set each task as a separate goal. This helps you maintain motivation because you&#8217;re constantly achieving your goals. You can see the results of your hard work!</p>
<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Hold yourself accountable</strong></span>. In order to ensure that you don&#8217;t stray from your chosen path, evaluate your progress every week or even every day. Determine how you can do better the next week.</p>
<p>• If you find that it&#8217;s difficult to keep yourself accountable, don&#8217;t be afraid to ask for help. You may enjoy having others check up on you to make sure you stay on task.</p>
<p>Are you looking for an accountability partner to help you stay motivated? We are a group of women entrepreneurs that use social media to promote and support each other in business. Check us out at <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/femininegreatness/">Honor Your Feminine Greatness</a>.</p>
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<p>5. <strong><span style="color: #008000;">Think positive thoughts</span></strong>. Negative thinking and lack of motivation go hand in hand. You can increase your motivation by concentrating on eliminating your negative thinking patterns. Replace negative feelings with optimism and positive thoughts and images.</p>
<p>• When you catch yourself feeling down, make an extra effort to seek the silver lining. It&#8217;s always there. If you take the time to look hard enough, you&#8217;ll find it.</p>
<p>6. <span style="color: #008000;"><strong>Make a change</strong></span>. If you think you&#8217;ve tried everything and you still can&#8217;t get motivated, perhaps you should consider a life change. Maybe there&#8217;s a reason why you&#8217;re feeling this way.</p>
<p>• If you don&#8217;t feel motivated to work toward your major life goals, consider some alternatives that may be more in line with your true desires.</p>
<p>• If you&#8217;re having trouble finding motivation for everyday chores, see if you can find a way to hire some help.</p>
<p><em><strong>Always keep in mind that &#8220;the time is now.&#8221; Put procrastination into your past and you&#8217;ll feel happy and accomplished at the end of the day, instead of stressed out or regretful.</strong></em></p>
<p>When you&#8217;re <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motivation">motivated</a>, life is more fulfilling. Use these strategies to wake up your motivation and enjoy the difference!</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 May 2012 14:39:45 +0000</pubDate>
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<h3><span style="color: #008000;">Top 10 Motivational Sayings about Success</span></h3>
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<p>Sayings and quotes about success can have a powerful effect on you. If you take the time to think about the deeper meaning behind the words, you&#8217;ll realize how easily you can apply these sayings into your own life to achieve the success you desire.</p>
<p><em><strong><span style="color: #008000;">Here are the top ten <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motivation">motivational </a>success quotes, as well as some self-reflection questions to ponder:</span></strong></em></p>
<p><em>1. I&#8217;ve failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed. &#8211; Michael Jordan</em></p>
<p>• Every failure brings an opportunity for growth and sets you up for future success in a new effort. For example, failing at one job may bring you the opportunity to enjoy great success in another. Learning from failure will lead you to greater achievement.</p>
<p><em>2. <strong>It is no use saying, &#8220;We are doing our best.&#8221; You have got to succeed in doing what is necessary. &#8211; Sir Winston Churchill</strong></em></p>
<p>• Too often, people use &#8220;I did my best&#8221; as an excuse for not doing what really needed to be done. Plan and prepare appropriately for the task at hand so that you can do what is required to succeed. Using this results-oriented strategy will help you accomplish your goal.</p>
<p><em>3. We are told that talent creates its own opportunities. But it sometimes seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities, but its own talents. &#8211; Eric Hoffer</em></p>
<p>• Try new things to spark your passions and develop your talents. You may actually have talents that you&#8217;re completely unaware of. When you desire something with a fiery passion, your mind will push you to take action and persevere until you&#8217;re successful.</p>
<p><em>4. <strong>We were born to succeed, not to fail. &#8211; William Barclay</strong></em></p>
<p>• You were put on the Earth to succeed in your pursuits. When you use your God-given gifts, abilities, and strengths to fulfill your purpose, success is within your grasp.</p>
<p><em>5. Success is not the key to happiness &#8211; happiness is the key to success. -Herman Cain</em></p>
<p>• When you&#8217;re happy with your life and you enjoy every moment of each day, it&#8217;s easy to feel the joy of success in the smallest accomplishments. Live joyfully and your positive attitude will attract greater successes.</p>
<p><em>6. <span style="color: #008000;">Success doesn&#8217;t come to you &#8211; you go to it. &#8211; Marva Collins</span></em></p>
<p>• You need to take action to achieve your goals and get what you want out of life. Once you define exactly what you want, design a plan of action steps to get you there, and then follow your plan.</p>
<p>7.<strong> You must do the thing you think you cannot do. &#8211; Eleanor Roosevelt</strong></p>
<p>• This quote is to challenge you. You must overcome your fears that are holding you back in order to become successful.</p>
<p><em>8. A great leader&#8217;s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position. &#8211; John Maxwell</em></p>
<p>• Believe in yourself. Know that you can achieve anything. Put your mind to it and be passionate about that which calls your name.</p>
<p><em>9. <strong>Forget about the consequences of failure. Failure is only a temporary change in direction to set you straight for your next success. &#8211; Denis Waitley</strong></em></p>
<p>• When you fail, opportunities open up to help you succeed. You may need to start your task anew or change your route, but each failure brings you closer to success.</p>
<p><em>10. <span style="color: #008000;">Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds. &#8211; Orison Swett Marden</span></em></p>
<p>• No matter how tough a situation may be, don&#8217;t give up easily. When you persevere through great odds and overcome many challenges to achieve your goal, success is even sweeter!</p>
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<p><span style="color: #008000;"><em>Your spring garden can be a delightful addition to your <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meditation">meditation</a> practice. It can be very simple to design a special space that will appeal to all your senses without requiring much time consuming maintenance. These are some ways to create a garden that can improve your peace of mind come rain or shine.</em></span></p>
<p>Designing a Spring Meditation Garden:</p>
<p>1. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Select lush plants</span></em>. An abundance of green plants helps to create a relaxing atmosphere. Any variety of mint or other herbs will add a pleasing scent. If you live in a warm climate, you can enjoy the rustle of bamboo or look for an ornamental grass that&#8217;s suited to your region.</p>
<p>2. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Incorporate objects of meditation</span></em>. Depending on your faith tradition, you may want to include a statue or another meaningful image. A simple arrangement of rocks or weathered wood can add extra appeal. Many people also find it helpful to rake gravel or sand. Many specialty stores sell these readymade &#8220;Zen Gardens.&#8221;</p>
<p>3. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Install solar birdbaths or fountains</em></span>. The sound of running water can stimulate your mind while it masks background noises. With solar devices, you can enjoy the effect and be good to the environment. You&#8217;ll also delight in the song and company of the birds you attract.</p>
<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Arrange for comfortable seating</em></span>. If you prefer to sit on the ground, you may just want to keep a spot clear so you can bring a cushion or mat outdoors with you. If you use a chair, ensure it promotes good posture so you can keep your back straight and your feet on the ground.</p>
<p>5. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Build a path</em></span>. Even in a small garden, a path can enhance your sense of space and exploration. You can contemplate a trail of stones or diversify your practice with some walking meditation.</p>
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<p><strong><span style="color: #008000;">Spending Sunny Days in Your Spring Meditation Garden:</span></strong></p>
<p>1<span style="color: #008000;"><em>. Clear away distractions</em></span>. Put aside internal and external distractions when it&#8217;s time to meditate. Depending on where you live, it may be helpful to meditate early in the morning when there&#8217;s less traffic and other background noise.</p>
<p>2. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Make distractions part of your practice</em></span>. If external distractions persist, welcome them into your practice. Use the sounds of car horns and people talking to train your mind to stay focused on your meditation object instead of pursuing other thoughts. Note the interruption and bring your mind back to your contemplations.</p>
<p>3. <em><span style="color: #008000;">Ward away bugs</span></em>. There are many ways to steer clear of insects without killing them. For wasps, keep a look out so you can stay away from their nests. Avoid the things that attract them like perfume, bright colors, and food. For natural ant repellent, try planting some mint or cucumber.</p>
<p>4. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Protect yourself from excessive sun exposure.</em></span> You get just as much sun whether you&#8217;re exercising or sitting down. Use a sunscreen with full spectrum protection and wear a hat, especially if you meditate at midday when the sun is strongest.</p>
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<p><strong><span style="color: #008000;">Enjoying Your Spring Meditation Garden on Rainy Days:</span></strong></p>
<p>1. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Develop some sheltered seating</em></span>. Spring showers are a natural part of the season. By building a gazebo, you can stay outdoors and enjoy the sound of the rain without getting wet. If you&#8217;re working with more limited space, install a large umbrella over your chair. It will help protect you from the sun as well as the rain.</p>
<p>2. <span style="color: #008000;"><em>Design a room with a view</em></span>. When stormy days keep you inside, you can still keep your garden in sight. Meditate by a window where you get a good view of your yard.</p>
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<p><em><span style="color: #008000;">Your spring garden can make your meditation practice more pleasant and productive. No matter what the weather brings, use the natural beauty of the outdoors to help calm your mind.</span></em></p>
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